In my last post I wrote about the 10 Characteristics Needed to Create a Powerful Signature Presence. In this post and through following posts, I am going to break down those 10 characteristics needed and provide you with some of the tips you need to create a powerful presence.
When I first read Jack Canfield’s book – The Success Principles – the very first principle was that we need to take 100% responsibility for where we are in our lives right now. This includes your level of achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings – everything!
This exercise really helped me to be clear on where I had and had not taken 100% responsibility. When I looked at the results, it became very clear and it wasn’t easy. In fact most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents our bosses, our friends, the media, the government, the economy, the weather, our clients, our spouse – in fact anything we can pin the blame on – not looking at where the real problem is – ourselves.
Dr Robert Resnick has a very simple formula that makes the idea of 100% responsibility even clearer. Here it is.
E + R = O
(Event + Response = Outcome)
To explain it simply, you can simply change your responses (R) to the event (E) the way things are, until you get the outcomes (O) that you want – this is the formula to Personal Power.Personal Power, the first on the 10 Characteristics Needed to Create a Powerful Signature Presence list, is about assuming full responsibility for your life and taking control of the things that you have the ability to change. It is about taking responsibility for the way that you think, the way that you communicate and by changing the pictures in your head i.e. your images of how you see yourself in the world.
Personal Power accepts that although we can’t always control everything that happens to us, we can decide our responses. Three simple questions you can ask yourself to measure your level of Personal Power is:
- Can I always choose my response to other peoples behavior or events?
- How much control over my life do I really have?
- Do I feel that I am the architect of my life, or do I have unwanted habits?
Personal Power is about the power we have over ourselves. It is not about the power that we wish to have over others. It doesn’t spring from the need to have power over others. The importance of personal power is this – if you can’t take command over yourself, the inner you, the people that are around you will sense that. This is where you need to not only talk the talk but also walk the talk.
If you take responsibility for your personal power you can increase your freedom and take control over how you act and respond, which in turn creates a more powerful presence.
If you would like to learn more or need help to build your presence to influence, simply book into one of my workshops. New dates for 2016 workshops have now been added.
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