Following on from Personal Power, the next quality of a powerful signature presence is high self-esteem.
Some call it self-esteem some call it confidence, some believe it comes from self-awareness and mastering how to control how we feel, think and behave and then just before we walk through that door to our next function we have that conversation in our head about wishing we had more of it.
I have just spent the weekend with two hundred amazing people at the Professional Speakers Australia Convention 2016 on the Gold Coast. There, I listened to speakers share stories about defining moments in their lives and how those moments changed them, their perspective and their actions. The impact their stories had on the people in the room, including myself was inspiring.
For me, I really connected with the story told by Tania de Jong from Creative Universe. As she wrapped up her presentation Voices of Innovation Tanya said, “we go through life with our music un-played, imagine if we could unlock a little more of the creative potential of our brain”. By unlocking a little more self-esteem, you will increase your own potential.
Self-esteem flows from self-image, our overall opinion of ourselves – how we feel about our abilities and limitations. When self-esteem is healthy, people feel good when they are around us and we feel good around others. When we find our tribe, we stop comparing ourselves; we may aspire to be like others but we have our own unique thumbprint that cannot be changed to be like anyone else’s. The sooner we learn to be our unique selves, build on our own experiences and share our own stories the sooner we start to build our own self-esteem and confidence. With that confidence, comes a level of connection and empathy with others.
To increase your awareness around your own self-esteem, ask yourself the following questions:
- How much do I really like myself?
- How significant do I think my life is?
- How worthy do I believe I am of other people’s attention?
- How truly confident of my abilities am I?
- Are others as important to me as me?
Most of what you need is right there within you, waiting for you to tap into it. The kind of high self-esteem that attracts others to you is pure authenticity – being more of the person you already are, without the mental ticks that get in your way.
Does this sound like you? Are you ready to activate your self-esteem and create a Signature Personal Presence?
Resources: James Scouller & Kristie Hedges