“The world has changed – the world is more complex, more stressful, more demanding. We face challenges in our personal life, our families and our work unimagined even a decade ago. These challenges and problems are not only of a new order of magnitude, they are altogether different in kind.“
These words were written by Stephen Covey in his forward to ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ in 2004 – Covey also talks about a few common human challenges we face.
Fear and insecurity, blame and victimisation, ‘I want it now’, hopelessness, lack of life balance, ‘what’s in it for me’, hunger to be understood, conflict and differences and personal stagnation.
Can this be as real today as it was in 2004? Hell yeah!!
How are you feeling about life today? The answer to this question will be different for every person.
For me – I am taking one day at a time. I know that if I worry too much about the future I will block myself from being proactive and moving forward. I made the decision to close my fashion business in 2008 when the world crashed financially and nobody wanted to buy anything. It took me five years to get over that time emotionally and my health took a deep dive. So now I make choices day by day. I do what I can to look forward.
I recently read an article written by Jess Pollard on R U OK? Her answer to that question was:
“No – I was not OK.”
Lately I have had the privilege of completing some one on one sessions with a few members of a team who were finding the constant changes difficult to manage. Their struggle was the feeling of disconnection, not knowing what was going to happen next, everything was unpredictable. Talking through these challenges and understanding what they could control and what they could manage and how they could influence, put things back into perspective.
Getting perspective of what is happening is different for everyone – we all have our own maps of the world and what is easy for one person to grasp, can be very difficult for someone else. We interpret the world based on our own experiences and beliefs.
Our challenge is not to judge. Making an assumption on how others should behave is based on our own thinking and beliefs and is generally how we would handle a situation. Remember they are not you.
Habit 5 of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is to Seek first to understand, then be understood. It is the principle of Empathic Communication. The best way to understand others is to ask questions. The better you get at asking question and not making judgements and assumptions the better you get at building trust.
Taking time to understand how others are feeling, creating some empathy and listening to the other persons point of view, can absolutely change the way that person sees the situation.
If you would like talk through an issue you are finding challenging – click on this link to book a free 30-minute call.
R U OK?